mandag, juli 17, 2006

To everyone I've ever neglected

It's not personal, really it isn't. I know I haven't responded to your phone call, letter, e-mail, blog post. I know it's been days, weeks, months, years. I've been meaning to get in touch. I think of you when I'm on-line, when I'm near a phone, when I read your words. My not responding is just the way I am, it's nothing personal, I ignore all my friends equally.

Surely you know that I will eventually resurface, perhaps long after I've been forgotten, or discarded by you out of irritation and impatience. When that happens, I do hope you'll forgive me, and be happy to see me, and hear all the silly distractions and petty obsessions that have kept me from you all this time. I've missed you always, even when I haven't remembered you for a while. I want to know how you've been, what you've done, who you've become, since I last was with you. I want the opportunity to vow to not let so much time pass before our next encounter, even knowing that much time will pass, and probably more.

When I finally do get in touch, I hope you are well. It can be dangerous to wait too long to respond to news - are you still in that great new job, still in the first phase of that new love? Or has the job turned sour, or is that love now fading? This makes me a bit hesitant to ask you personal things. It's not that I'm so cold, or that I don't care, it's just that I've lost touch, and don't wish to hurt you with my long-developed ignorance of your situation. I hope you understand.

My far-flung friends, rest assured that eventually I will find myself in your part of the world. I will do my best to let you know I'm coming, and where exactly I'll be. I hope you still wish to see me. I hope you're not on holiday, out of town, in hospital. And when you're in my part of the world, please let me know. I really, really do want to see you, and talk to you, and hear you, and be with you. Even when I neglect you.

*Photo: one of the many sculptures in the Norwegian garden at Frendensborg palace.*

20 kommentarer:

al-Ferengi sagde ...

I love you too :)

Chloe sagde ...

you are so sweet!
i don't know who you have neglected. you have never neglected me though. and finally i am not neglecting you either. i sent you something, i made it to the post office! it took me months. but then, the post office is far away my dear. :)

Etchen sagde ...

You are an absolute joy and whenever you "pop up" it's always a delightful surprise. ;-)

Daphnewood sagde ...

I could have written this post myself. It's like opening a halmark card and it having the perfect words inside. I have never felt neglected by you but often feel like I neglect you and other friends/family/acquaintances. You can count on me to stop in to see you if I am ever in your part of the world. And please consider yourself stocked with an open invitation to drop in anytime you may be my part (no expiration date). I would love to see you too.

marybishop sagde ...

I'm just happy to read your words when you put them down...Who can stay at the computer night and day? Or on the phone? It takes going out into life to find things to talk about.

Simple American sagde ...

Hey. Have fun. We'll be here when you get back to honest procratination.

El Güero sagde ...

Your blog posts are your way of letting the world know you are alive and well.

Kim's Mom sagde ...

Kim, Kim... is that you??? ; )
Always love you!

Maddy sagde ...

I do miss you!:)
Keep happy - live love.

smiles,

maddy

Connie and Rob sagde ...

This will surely make everyone feel better. You are a good person.

Take care,
Connie

Fitèna sagde ...

Take care and come back whenever. We're going nowhere!

Love!

fitèna

DayByDay4-2Day sagde ...

spoken like a true guilt felt person!

:)

Marion sagde ...

The more possibilities to stay in touch I have (phone, e-mail, skype, msn, blog, etc.), the less I actually do get in touch... it's pathetic, really. ;-)

HB sagde ...

Hey, everyone is entitled to periods of pure holiday or pure work:-)

HB sagde ...

Glemte å si: ku-bildene var UTROLIG stilige!

socialpest sagde ...

I need to say that so many people I know.

socialpest sagde ...

i left out the word "to"

kimananda sagde ...

Hello, all. I am currently using what has to be the slowest internet connection of all time. I would blame the lack of posts on this, but really I've been just busy. I will however use this as an excuse to respond to you all at once. Thank you for your kind words, and for letting me know if you've had the same feeling of neglecting people.

Actually, I wrote this because of some very specific people that I was having trouble getting in touch with here in Lisbon...and managed to reach everyone between writing this post and actually posting it. So, now I only feel like I'm neglecting my on-line friends. :-O

Nabeel sagde ...

it's ok sweetheart .. friends are friends in good and the bad times :)

kimananda sagde ...

Yes, they are, aren't they?